Everywhere you look, someone is trying to tell you something different about sex. Some religions ask that you wait until marriage. On television, sex is used to sell everything from cars to colas. And since when have you seen a celebrity wait until marriage to have sex?
Sex is a complicated issue. This website exists to help you find answers and information so you can make the right choices for you. But growing up means taking responsibility for your choices and actions. Deciding if, when and with who you want to have sex are tough decisions that you’re going to have to make on your own. Your parents may forbid it and your friends may warn against it, but in the end it’s still your decision. Consider all of the benefits and the consequences, and you might want to ask yourself:
Just because you may want to have sex eventually doesn’t mean that you’re ready to take such a big step right now.
The decision to have sex, or to have sex with a particular person, is a choice that is different for everyone.
Pressure to have sex, and pressure to wait, comes from everywhere. How you were brought up, your religious beliefs, peer pressure, what your friends or other people your age are doing, and your previous relationships and/or sexual experiences may all be things you want to think about.
If you are considering having sex – particularly when it’s for the first time – one of the most important things to think about is ‘why do I want to do this?’ If you’re doing it just to fit in, because of pressure, to make someone else happy, or just to lose your virginity you may want to reconsider. If you have sex for these reasons, you may come to regret it.
Consider all of your feelings, motives and the consequences of sex before you take that plunge.